Take stock of 15 manifestations of wisdom. Are you really wise？
Wisdom is the realm that most people pursue. So, what are the performances of wise people? Abraham Maslow, a famous American psychologist, listed 15 characteristics of great men and wise men in various fields after studying them.
1. Excellent judgment.A wise man can have a comprehensive and accurate insight into reality without being mixed with subjective wishes and prejudices. The judgment here includes two aspects: one is to see the essence through the phenomenon, and not to judge on the surface; Second, it can predict the future evolution of things according to the present, so it is brilliant and far-sighted.
2. Be good at accepting yourself.Wise men have the courage to admit their weaknesses and strive to make progress towards what they can become. Because of this self-acceptance, they won’t bother to dwell on their mistakes. They are not perfect, but they respect themselves and feel good about their present situation.
3. Have a simple and kind heart."Adults don’t lose their childlike heart", and truly intelligent people don’t care about the benefits of one gain and the heart of one hole, but preserve the true nature of nature and treat everything with frankness and simplicity.
4. Be able to care about the world.Great men and capable people must be devoted to the whole world, and they value the world more than themselves. With such a sense of responsibility and mission, they are not trapped by trivial matters, but more determined and brave.
5. Be good at being alone.For people with great hearts, they can enjoy the joy of living alone and living in groups. They like to have time alone to face themselves and enrich themselves.
6. Be able to go its own way.The wise are less bound by cultural norms and customs than the average person. They have a sense of security that they don’t depend on others to meet, and they will express their thoughts and wishes in a way that suits them, without paying too much attention to whether the society agrees. But this is not indifference and ignorance, but a better understanding of what you "should" do without being influenced by society to plan your life.
7. Know how to appreciate the world.Wise people are usually childlike, and they can feel and appreciate the world with curious hearts and pure eyes. Only when there is no dust in the heart can we achieve a world in a sand and a heaven in a flower.
8. I have had the experience of "harmony between man and nature".This is a state that Maslow called "peak experience". In this state, people will feel that time and space have been surpassed, anxiety and fear have disappeared, replaced by a sense of unity between man and the universe, a sense of strength and surprise for a moment, and feel that the problems that once plagued them seem less important, and the original fear has been replaced by a feeling of letting nature take its course and a strong appreciation of life.
9. Have a high-quality friendship.These people don’t have many friends, but their friendship is profound and beneficial. They may have many friends who are as light as water, but they have never met each other, but they like each other and are connected.
10. Have a sense of democracy and equality.People with great wisdom usually know how to respect people of different classes, races and backgrounds, and can treat all kinds of opinions and values with a peaceful and calm attitude.
11. Be able to distinguish between means and ends.Great people emphasize purpose. However, they often regard the experience and process of the activity as the purpose itself, so they can experience the fun of the activity itself more than ordinary people.
12. Have a sense of humor.Their sense of humor is rarely directed at a specific person or group, and they will not laugh at others. Instead, they will look at human society and themselves more and resolve all kinds of disappointments in reality with philosophical thinking and self-mockery.
13. be creativeWise people don’t express their creativity in the traditional way of writing poems and painting, but their creativity is reflected in their daily life, such as teachers thinking of new ways to communicate with students and businessmen thinking of clever means to promote sales.
14. Have an open mind.All rivers run into the sea, tolerance is great, and a gentleman has the mind and tolerance to tolerate everything, which fully embodies a person’s connotation and cultivation.
15. Work hard and be able to concentrate.Compared with ordinary people, they work harder and more attentively. For them, work is not really hard work, because happiness lies in work. ▲ (Xiao Rong, Standing Committee Member of Psychological Evaluation Committee of Guangdong Mental Health Association and Associate Professor of Psychology Department of Southern Medical University)